Facilitator Guide - Consultation Basics
This Consultation Basics workshop series is a self-paced training module for groups. Based on the book Collaboration Through Consultation, these workshops illustrate the principles of consultation through a series of hands-on activities.
What is consultation?
Consultation is a form of group decision-making that is based on the search for truth. It allows a group to see an issue from all sides and make wise decisions.
How to facilitate these workshops
If this is your first time facilitating a group, don’t worry. You got this! And we’ve made it easy for you, with the participants doing most of the work.
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Choose your workshop from the list.
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Read through the Facilitator Guide for the workshop.
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Read through the slides for the workshop.
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Gather the materials listed.
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Participants will take turns reading the slides.
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Lead the group in the activity.
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Facilitate the discussions.
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Share your feedback with us so we can make these workshops even better.
What's in this Guide
Each workshop below is organized into sections:
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Workshop Link: This is the link to the workshop slides. Read through these slides before the session.
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Materials: A list of materials you’ll need to gather (mostly household items).
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Timing: Generally, these workshops take about 20 minutes or less.
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Setup: This is how you want to set up the space for the workshop.
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Sequence: These are the steps for the workshop itself. In general, the participants will take turns reading the slides out loud. Then you’ll lead them in the activity. Finally, the group will discuss what they’ve learned (we provide discussion questions on the slides).
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Activity: These are instructions specific to the activity.
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Discuss: We provide the discussion questions here and in the slides. Make sure everyone has a chance to speak during the discussions.
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Share: This workshop series is a “living book” — we all get to help make it better. The last slide in each workshop contains a link to “share your ideas”. Encourage your group to complete the form and offer suggestions on how to improve the workshop. If you sign up for the newsletter, you’ll be able to vote for the suggestions you like the best.
​​We’ve designed these workshops for youth, but adults really enjoy these hands-on activities as well. So relax, have fun with it and remember — we’re all learning. There are no experts in consultation. It’s a skill that improves with practice. And there’s always more to learn.
1 Warming Up
Workshop Link
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Read through these slides before the session.
Materials
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Your voices.
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Your sense of humor.
Timing
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20 minutes or less
(If you have time, you can do Workshop 1 and Workshop 2 together.)
Setup
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Place chairs in a circle.
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You may need to move the chairs back during the activity.
Sequence
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Opener: If this is the first activity of the day, we suggest starting with a simple warm-up to get everyone settled, maybe go around the group and ask everyone to share their favorite ____ (animal, color, food, book, movie, etc.)
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Participants take turns reading the panels.
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Activity: Role-play story of The Five Blind Men.
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Discuss what happened in the story.

The first step is to help the youth learn to read aloud effectively. We’ve set up these workshops so that the youth themselves read through the content together. This is to 1) take the burden off you, the facilitator and 2) empower the youth in their own learning. We figured this would be more effective than having someone (you) give them a lecture on the topic.
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But this means that they all need to be able to read out loud effectively — not mumbling into the page, not racing through the words to get it over with as quickly as possible. But rather to step into the words, inhabit them, paint a picture for their listeners as a gift to them.
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So we’ll start with something simple — a fable they may already know: The Five Blind Men.
Activity: Role Play
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Choose volunteers to play characters in the story: the 5 blind men and the girl.
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Take time and play with the story. Let the participants have fun with it. Maybe they want to act it out. Ideally everyone will have a chance to play one of the characters. Make it light-hearted and fun.
The whole point of this exercise is to help the participants feel comfortable reading aloud:
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To speak clearly.
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To speak loudly enough for everyone to hear.
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To pause between thoughts.
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To not rush through the words.
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To be expressive.
It’s a gift to your listeners to read aloud well. It helps them understand the story.

Discuss
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What happened in this story?
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What didn’t happen?
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What would have helped the five men?
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Have you ever been in a situation where each person had only a partial understanding of what was going on?
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What was the result?
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Share
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Share your ideas for improving the workshop.

2 Consultation
Workshop Link
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Read through these slides before the session.
Materials
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Just yourselves.
Timing
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10 minutes
Setup
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The group can sit around in a circle.
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They’ll need room to stand up and look at their back.
Sequence
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Opener: If this is the first activity of the day, we suggest starting with a simple warm-up to get everyone settled, maybe go around the group and ask everyone to share their favorite ____ (animal, color, food, book, movie, etc.)
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Participants take turns reading the panels.
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Activity: Look at your back. Make sure the participants actually stand up and try to look at their backs.

Activity: Look at your back
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Make sure everyone stands up and looks at their back.
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Participants continue taking turns reading the slides.

Activity (continued)
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Make sure everyone stands up and looks at their neighbor’s back.
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Participants continue taking turns reading the slides.
Share
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Share your ideas for improving the workshop.

3 Seek Truth
Workshop Link
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Read through these slides before the session.
Materials
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Print out Worksheet 3-1 (1page for each person)
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Crayons, colored pencils, markers, etc.
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Sharp pencil for poking holes in the lantern shapes.
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Cell phone or puck light.
Timing
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20 minutes
Setup
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Table or hard surface for coloring the lantern pages and for setting up the lantern.
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You can set up the lantern on the floor, but it will be harder to see through the holes.
Sequence
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Opener: If this is the first activity of the day, we suggest starting with a simple warm-up to get everyone settled, maybe go around the group and ask everyone to share their favorite ____ (animal, color, food, book, movie, etc.)
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Participants take turns reading the panels.
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Activity: Make a lantern.
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Discuss the lantern.

Activity: Make a lantern
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Hand out lantern pages or blank paper.
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Participants color/draw lantern pages.
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Use a pencil to poke holes in lantern pages.
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Fold lantern pages along dotted lines.
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Stand up the lantern pages in a circle.
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Once the lantern is complete, give the participants time to describe what they see on their side of the lantern.
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Participants continue reading the next 2 slides.
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Place the light (cell phone or puck light) in the center of the lantern.



Discuss
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How is the lantern like grappling with an issue?
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Why is it important to hear from each person?
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How is the light like truth?
Share
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Share your ideas for improving the workshop.

4 Oneness of Humanity
Workshop Link
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Read through these slides before the session.
Materials
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Crayons, colored pencils, markers, etc.
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Print out Worksheet 4-1.
If you print these pages back-to-back, the participants will only have one piece of paper to keep track of, otherwise they’ll have two. No big deal, this just makes it easier. -
Scissors: cut these pages apart along the dotted lines to make the Ingredient/Body Part cards.
Timing
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20 minutes
Setup
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Table or hard surface for coloring the ingredients and for laying them out.
Sequence
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Opener: If this is the first activity of the day, we suggest starting with a simple warm-up to get everyone settled, maybe go around the group and ask everyone to share their favorite ____ (animal, color, food, book, movie, etc.)
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Participants take turns reading the panels.
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Activity: Pizza Ingredients
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Continue taking turns reading the panels.
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Discuss the questions as you go.

Discuss
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What would happen if one group of cells decides they're better than everyone else and starts to take over?
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Possible answers:
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The body becomes unhealthy.
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You’d have cancer.
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Activity: Pizza Ingredients
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Hand out the Ingredient/Body Part cards.
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Participants color their ingredient card.
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When everyone is done coloring, call out for each ingredient:
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“What does the Right Side of the Brain have to bring to the table?”
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“What does the Left Side of the Brain have to bring to the table?”
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“What does the Right Hand have to bring to the table?”
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“What does the Left Hand have to bring to the table?”
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“What does the Right Leg have to bring to the table?”
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“What does the Left Leg have to bring to the table?”
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Each person brings their ingredient to the table and fits them together.

Discuss
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What can we make with these ingredients?
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Pizza!
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What is the smallest ingredient?
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Yeast
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What happens if we don’t have it?
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Dough won’t rise
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What if we only had tomatoes?
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We’d just have tomato sauce.
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What’s missing?
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Water and salt
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Without water, you can’t make dough.
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Without salt, it wouldn’t be tasty.
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Share
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Share your ideas for improving the workshop.

5 Inspiration & Harmony
Workshop Link
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Read through these slides before the session.
Materials
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Crayons, colored pencils, markers, etc.
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Print out Worksheet 5-1 (1 for each person).
Timing
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20 minutes
Setup
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Table or hard surface for drawing/writing.
Sequence
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Opener: If this is the first activity of the day, we suggest starting with a simple warm-up to get everyone settled, maybe go around the group and ask everyone to share their favorite ____ (animal, color, food, book, movie, etc.)
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Participants take turns reading the panels.
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Activity: Visualize.
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Discuss inspiration and harmony.

Activity: Visualize
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Hand out Worksheet 5-1 or blank sheets
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Continue taking turns reading through the next few slides.
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Pause with the slide listing the phrases.
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Give them 10 minutes or so to write/draw on their worksheet.
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Then ask who’d like to share their reflections.



Discuss
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Why is inspiration important?
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Why is harmony in the group important?
Share
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Share your ideas for improving the workshop.

6 Inner Work
Workshop Link:
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Read through these slides before the session.
Materials
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Pens or pencils for completing the worksheets.
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Print worksheets:
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Worksheet 6-1 Inner Qualities (1 per person)
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Worksheet 6-2 Our Qualities (1 per person and 1 for the group)
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Timing
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20 minutes
Setup
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Table or hard surface for drawing/writing.
Sequence
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Opener: If this is the first activity of the day, we suggest starting with a simple warm-up to get everyone settled, maybe go around the group and ask everyone to share their favorite ____ (animal, color, food, book, movie, etc.)
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Participants take turns reading the panels.
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Activity: Notice Qualities.
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Discuss the effect of noticing qualities.

Activity: Notice Qualities
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Work through Worksheet 6-1 Inner Qualities together as a group.
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Discuss any items that might have more than one right answer.
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Each person keeps track of the qualities they observe on Worksheet 6-2 Our Qualities.
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At the end of the day, total up all the qualities, using an extra copy of Worksheet 6-2 Our Qualities. Or you can use a blank sheet of paper and write the qualities.

Discuss
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Which qualities did you notice the most?
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Did you notice a difference in your group when you focused on each other’s qualities?
Share
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Share your ideas for improving the workshop.

7 Express Your View
Workshop Link
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Read through these slides before the session.
Materials
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Note cards (1 for each participant).
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Pens or pencils for writing on note cards.
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Container (hat or bucket, etc.) to collect the note cards.
Timing
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20 minutes
Setup
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Have the participants sit or stand in a circle, but not around a table.
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They’ll need to walk into the middle of the circle for the second part of the exercise.
Sequence
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Opener: If this is the first activity of the day, we suggest starting with a simple warm-up to get everyone settled, maybe go around the group and ask everyone to share their favorite ____ (animal, color, food, book, movie, etc.)
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Participants take turns reading the panels.
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Activity 1: Talk over each other.
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Activity 2: Hold space.
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Continue taking turns reading the panels
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Discuss the questions.

This is a good exercise to come back to if your group ever gets bogged down in arguing about something. You’ll probably want to get them to take a break first to cool down. Then restart with an exercise like this one.
Activity 1: Everyone talks at once
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Give them a minute or two to all talk at once.
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Then call for quiet.

Discuss
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How did it feel when everyone was talking at once?
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What happened to the space in the middle of the group?
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Possible answers:
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Filled up with noise
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Got very chaotic
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Hard to hear
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Activity 2: Hold Space
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Hand out one note card to each person.
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Participants write down one positive quality of the person to their right.
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Collect all the cards and place them in a hat or bucket in the middle of the room.
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Ask everyone to switch places (so no one knows who wrote which card).
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Ask 1 person to go to the center, draw a card and read it.
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Collect their card as they walk back to their place.
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Keep going around the circle until each person has drawn a card and read it.

Discuss
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How did this exercise feel, compared to the first one when we all talked at once?
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What happened to the space in the middle of the group?
Share
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Share your ideas for improving the workshop.

8 Let It Go
Workshop Link
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Read through these slides before the session.
Materials
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Small ball you can hold in your hand (baseball, handball, bean bag, etc.).
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Print out Worksheet 8-1.
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Scissors: cut apart Mandala page along the lines.
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Crayons, colored pencils, markers, etc.
Timing
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20 minutes
Setup
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Table or hard surface for drawing/coloring.
Sequence
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Opener: If this is the first activity of the day, we suggest starting with a simple warm-up to get everyone settled, maybe go around the group and ask everyone to share their favorite ____ (animal, color, food, book, movie, etc.)
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Participants take turns reading the panels.
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Activity 1: Hold a ball lightly.
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Activity 2: Create a mandala.
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Discuss the questions.

Activity 1: Hold a ball lightly
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Hand the ball to someone.
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The participants keep reading the slides.
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First the volunteer holds the ball tightly in their hand.
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Then they rest the ball on their palm.
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Then they roll the ball around on their palm.

Activity 2: Create a mandala
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Hand out mandala pieces and crayons, etc.
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Each person decorates their piece of the mandala.
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When everyone is finished, they put their pieces together to form the mandala.

Discuss
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What does it mean to let go of your viewpoint?
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Why is this sometimes hard to do?
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What does it mean that your viewpoint now belongs to the group?
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What does that allow the group to do?
Share
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Share your ideas for improving the workshop.

9 Support the Decision
Workshop Link
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Read through these slides before the session.
Materials
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2-3 blank sheets of paper.
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String: 6 feet per person.
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Scissors:
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Cut string into 3-foot lengths.
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Each person gets 2 lengths of string.
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Marker (to write “Decision” on the paper).
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Pencil or hole punch.
Timing
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20 minutes
Setup
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Space to stand up and move together as a group.
Sequence
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Opener: If this is the first activity of the day, we suggest starting with a simple warm-up to get everyone settled, maybe go around the group and ask everyone to share their favorite ____ (animal, color, food, book, movie, etc.)
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Participants take turns reading the panels.
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Activity 1: Pull apart.
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Discuss what happened to the “Decision”.
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Activity 2: Pull together.
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Continue taking turns reading the panels.
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Discuss the questions.

Activity 1: Pull apart
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Hand out:
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1 sheet of paper
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Marker
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Pencil and/or hole punch
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1 three-foot string per person
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Participants write “Decision” on the paper.
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Then they punch holes around the edges and tie strings through the holes.
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Participants each try to pull the paper towards themselves.
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Discuss what happened to the “Decision.”

Activity 2: Pull together
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Give them another sheet of paper to try again.
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Participants write “Decision” on the paper.
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Then they punch holes around the edges and tie strings through the holes.
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Tell the group to pull in a direction where there’s a natural barrier (a wall, chair, table, etc.).
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When they run into the barrier, discuss what happened to the “Decision.”
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Now, tell the group to pull in a different direction where they can go further.

Discuss
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What happens when we make a decision and aren’t unified?
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What can happen when we are unified?
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How can this help our group make decisions?
Share
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Share your ideas for improving the workshop.

10 Reflect
Workshop Link
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Read through these slides before the session.
Materials
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Print out Worksheet 10-1 (1 per person).
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Pens, pencils, etc.
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Optional: poster paper and markers.
Timing
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20 minutes
Setup
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Table or hard surface for writing.
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Optional: tape poster paper to a wall or easel.
Sequence
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Opener: If this is the first activity of the day, we suggest starting with a simple warm-up to get everyone settled, maybe go around the group and ask everyone to share their favorite ____ (animal, color, food, book, movie, etc.)
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Participants take turns reading the panels.
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Activity: Reflect on our learning
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Discuss your progress as a group.
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Optional: Capture what people share on poster paper so everyone can see it.

Activity: Reflect on Our Learning
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Hand out Worksheet 10-1 (1 per person).
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Allow about 5 minutes of quiet time (or more, if needed) for the participants to fill out the worksheet.

Discuss
Optional: Capture what people share on poster paper so everyone can see it.
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Where did you start as a group?
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What have you learned together?
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What needs to happen next?
Share
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Share your ideas for improving the workshop.

11 Welcome New People
Workshop Link:
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Read through these slides before the session.
Materials
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Your voices.
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Your sense of humor.
Timing
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20 minutes
Setup
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Open space to act and move.
Sequence
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Opener: If this is the first activity of the day, we suggest starting with a simple warm-up to get everyone settled, maybe go around the group and ask everyone to share their favorite ____ (animal, color, food, book, movie, etc.)
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Participants take turns reading the panels.
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Activity 1: Role play minimal welcome.
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Discuss the questions.
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Activity 2: Role play too much welcome.
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Continue taking turns reading the panels.
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Discuss the questions.

Activity 1: Role play minimal welcome
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Call for a volunteer to be the new person.
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Ask someone to read through the scenario on the next slide.
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Everyone acts out the scenario.

Discuss
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What was it like to enter this scene?
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Did you feel welcome and engaged?

Activity 2: Role play too much welcome
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Call for a different volunteer to be the new person.
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Ask someone to read through the scenario.
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Everyone acts out the scenario.

Discuss
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What was it like to enter this scene?
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Did you feel welcome and engaged?

Discuss (continued
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Between the two scenarios, what worked?
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What didn’t work?
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What new things could we try?
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Possible answers if they get stuck…
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One person greets the newcomer, finds out what their interests are and introduces them to members who share those interests.
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One person greets the newcomer and makes sure they have something to eat/drink.
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How do we help someone get up to speed so they understand what our group is doing and why?
Share
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Share your ideas for improving the workshop.




